I understand how you must feel -- you know I've been struggling with my own PMA off and on the past several weeks. So, I ask, what are you doing for yourself these days? How are you showing yourself that you love yourself? (Go back to my thread and read what I posted on loving oneself if you need a reminder! )
Quote: I am considering writing her a letter addressing some of the perceptions she wrote about in her letter she sent in reply to mine asking about her helping the boys cope. That letter from me to her helped pretty much only on the following weekend.
Before you write that letter, perhaps now would be a good time for you to consider your entire DR journey, in retrospect, and see if you can start analyzing what has worked and what has not.
Your second paragraph in this post tells me two things:
You are armchair QBing your wife's psychology -- KNOCK IT OFF! Unless you have a degree in Psych yourself, stop it. And even if you do? Stop it.
You are entirely too focused on your W and not focusing on yourself at all. What's going on with your career these days? Have you taken a class lately? Have you learned something new? If you need some ideas, give me a holler and I'd be happy to help you ferret out some ideas.
Now, get your mental state off your W so you can get out of that "this sucks" frame of mind, okay, bud?
I hope I'm not sounding too harsh here, but there have been times when you have called me to task, and I greatly appreciated it (retrospectively speaking ), so now I'm returning the favor. Forest for the trees, dude...forest for the trees.
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