When we GAL, concentrate on our kids, stop actively trying to win her back (dbing) are we effectively letting go of them? I believe it will take me years to really get over her, but I kinda feel like I've let go. I just dont know. Some say that in order for reconciliation to work you have to let go. Letting go of the thought of getting back together with her. Accept the fact that she is with someone else, and that is life. I'm so sick of this rollercoaster. I have to focus on the reality of the situation, she left me, she divorced me, she is the one who wants nothing to do with me. I changed some things which I knew were wrong, with the hope that she would see my changes and reconsider. She has not reconsidered. What else can I do? I dont want to waste my life, I love her, but I dont want to waste the rest of my life hoping and praying she'll come back, when she never even turns around. I feel like I need to do something, but all I really need to do is start living life again. I know this is deep, but just writing down my thoughts. So I continue to GAL, be here for my boys, maintain my behavioral changes. Basically all I have done is focus on myself and my boys, she gets little attention and thats what she wants. So I have let go, I have moved on, a little. I think you have too.
