Well, I have not laid eyes upon my XW in nearly 6 weeks now. In mid-December, I wrote her a very short letter asking her to consider the lesson we were teaching our kids with this divorce. I also enclosed the first tape from Michelle's KLA set and said she may want to listen to it, but to please return it at her convenience. I also enclosed a self-addressed, postage-paid protective mailer for her to return it in. I received the tape back on March 18. No note, no cardboard protection that I had sent with it, not even a return address on the envelope. I guess I have gotten an answer...it is NOTHING, it is over and done with. I would have thought she would have at least put in a postit note saying "thanks" as that is her usual MO...but nothing at all??? I have no idea if she even listened to it, but if I had to guess, I would guess she did and it made her angry all over again. How she deals with this second divorce for both of us is not really my concern I guess at this point, but I am seeing less and less hope. There is no real hope to be had as long as she continues in her denial state. She apparently can't bring herself to engage my sons in a conversation even though she said she would. I guess the guilt is still so strong for her as well it should be. However, it would be best for all concerned if she would just get past it and be nice to the boys. They deserve that from her and she should feel obligated to at least be more than basically civil to them. The divorce had nothing to do with them...it was apparently due to me not being the kind of step-father to her younger son and 20 year old daughter who wanted nothing to do with me, my sons or developing a blended family...the girl wanted no part of it and took nearly every opportunity over a 3 year period to make that point obvious.
