IMP, you may be exactly right about over interpreting the jewelry, but I have information from a letter she wrote me some 5 weeks ago where she went into our R and M and plainly stated she "misses most and remembers best the good things and times between us rather than dwelling on the reason we are apart." She further went on to say that thinking of why we are apart only "frustrates and makes me angry" and that is not productive for her. So, now can you see why I think there is substantial emotional connection? I don't know what all is going through her mind and can only dangerously speculate about that since she has yet to tell me what "the reason" really is...if she knows herself. I know she likes control and undoubtedly felt our M and R was getting out of control and she couldn't control that or her R with her two older kids. Another sitch she would have liked to control, but we all have admitted to not having any control over was the attitude and litigious nature of the mother of my sons.
I agree that I need to wait and perhaps another letter will be forthcoming...I didn't expect the one I got, but it was part of a reply to my request to her to be more warm and friendly with my sons when she saw them at church. I was totally surprised to get anything at all from her, much less a letter going into our R. Thanks for your input. Please continue to comment. Most people see our divorce as something a bit strange as we put more into pre-marital counseling and investigation of blending families than anyone around here has heard of including our own MC.
