This is about the 4th time I read your posts and still don't know what to say. I don't know if I would say there is an emotional attachement because of the jewelry. You could be chasing rainbows on that one. I have been divorced for almost 4 years and I see my ex still imitating me, so don't look for things like that. It will drive you nuts.
As for time, who knows. And since you go to church, I might talk to my pastor and see if a strategy arises.
