My XW and I have been divorced now for 2 months. She left in August and as far as I can tell, never really looked back. She left apparently primarily because her 20 year old daughter and I didn't get along and I was supposed to unconditionally accept a stepdaughter who treated my sons poorly and was openly disrespectful to me. I have yet to get a clear and definitive answer as to why my XW left. She moved out knowing the I would do whatever necessary to repair our R and M. I DBed all the way through December when our D was finalized to no avail. Anyhow, I don't know of any OM involved even now. My XW at least gives lip service to caring about my younger sons ages 13 and 11, however, she is presently running hot and cold with regard to speaking with them and showing them she really cares when she sees them at church. I think she is having some identity crisis/MLC with her two oldest kids growing up and leaving home. Her oldest son is 22 and lives 1200 miles away, her 20 year old is half way around the world on study abroad in college and won't return until June. She also has a 15 year old son whom I got along well with even though his mother thought the relationship wasn't exactly like she wanted between us. My XW is pretty controlling and likes to have her way. In large part, it appears that having her way with her kids is why she left even though there was not any open conflict between me and her kids except one or two events early in our 3 year marriage. I am just letting things cool down right now with LRT and staying dark, but how/when do I make an entry into trying to re-establish with her? She still is emotionally attached to me at least partly because she still wears a diamond pendant, a gold necklace and a gold and diamond anklet that I gave her as special occasion gifts such as wedding gift, Christmas and our wedding anniversary.
