Quote: When others fail to live up to our expectations, we tend to place blame. We tend to get frustrated. That frustration leads to depression. A rift is caused that prevents healing. It creates an "I'm right/you're wrong" competition or division in the relationship. It points to a lack in communication. It means you cannot accept your partner for who he or she is. It creates a feeling of insecurity. It creates distrust. It creates a power struggle for control in the relationship. It's a variation of the "my way or the highway" type of thinking.
Lots of good reasons not to have expectations at all. Ask yourself why must things be as per your expectations? Ask yourself why do you believe that your way of thinking is best or better than others? Ask yourself why do you cling to those beliefs? Visualize what the relationship could be like if you were freed from that thinking. Visualize what your relationship would be like if you and your partner were not chained by the other's expectations but were free to grow and each of you could simply be yourselves and how magnificent it can be to love someone and be loved for being yourselves.
It is so difficult to live without expectations... we need them bc each part of M has their needs, desires, and expectations... The problem is when our expectations seems to be an idioty or silly issue to the other part and at the inverse too...!!.. And the problem is that i use to express a lot my expectations... and he doesnt... i have more affective expectations... and it seems he has more actions expectations... I am more affective, he is less... so, by this point of view, yes, i ned to accept i married a man not too much affective or expressive and that i cant change that...!!
