I'm so sorry about what you're going through. I know it all too well, and I deeply feel for you.
Our H's -- they want to stay, they want to go, they want to stay, etc, etc, etc....
I know how difficult and how emotionally draining this is. I really enjoy riding rollercoasters, but this is one I could definitely skip!
Again, I'm sorry. I don't have a whole lot of advice to give, but I do agree with Ellie. Your H is still there. Use this time for YOU. Do things for Andrea that will show her radiance. When you shine, your H will notice. If you're in a sunny mood and NOT thinking about the R, your H will do the same. He will react to YOUR actions and YOUR reactions. Be as positive as you can not just for H. Do it for YOU.
And STOP the R talks! Don't start them at all. If H initiates an R talk, just listen and validate. Don't say "I'm not the one who needs to decide" and bring up the fact that he is the confused one. He knows it already. I'm going to tell you what a wonderfully wise member told me here: STOP talking about how the M can work and just DO it! Do it and show it in your actions, Andrea. I know you can!
Thinking of you....
JV
Valerie
"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." ~ author unknown
