Thanks for the advice on my thread, Andrea. I will try and be patient and see where things go. Although, he wants to move to another city, so I may not have a lot of time to think.
I have been following your sitch too, and understand how you must be feeling. I think your sister is right - don't enable his fantasy. Also, don't expect him to make you happy - do things for yourself. In other words, get a life of your own. Find other interests, hang out with your friends, and try and always act happy around him, no matter how miserable he is being.
Good luck!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim