Quote: i am really not conviced about my h suffering from Depression...Yes, he has a great existencial crisis but a depresive man will take antidepressive pill and his Therapist didnt prescib that...!...
Oh, Andrea, I can diagnose his depression from here, and I'm in another country!!!!!! Lots of therapists can miss clinical depression, especially if they are all caught up in psychoanalytic thinking, looking for an "explanation" for the feelings - truthfully, sometimes the "feelings" are just caused by a lack of neurotransmitters in the brain!
Quote: yeserday, at morning, after he rejecting again my hugs when we awake, i exploded and said him: i think we better divorce bc i am suffering too much... then i sent him message phone saying " i love you "... he asnwered, thanks... then i replied "you welcome, but i tell you this just for you to understand what i said this morning... maybe i will take some deccisions that will hurt me and will hurt other ones, but is precisallly bc i am the only one who is loving noW"...
Andrea, I know it is hard, but please stop all the pushing and threatening divorce. You can't threaten someone into loving you again - and every time you say divorce, he is thinking you will never forgive him and things will never get better.
Quote: so... its only about me as he said last conversation
Just because an alien says it doesn't make it so! He only THINKS you are the source of his problem - you are not. BUT - that doesn't mean you shouldn't be working on the things he does have complaints about. We all can stand a little improvement. So why not work on losing the weight, being more adventurous and fun and athletic, being cheerful and Acting As If even when H is depressed (you know, some of those times that you dfeel rejected by him may not have anything to do with you. He may feel so depressed that he doesn't want to be touched, or so guilty that he feels like he doesn't deserve your love.)
Find a way to make your life as happy as you can without depending on your H for that happiness. He will be drawn to the bright light of your happiness. The darkness of your fear and despair will drive him away. Vent that here instead!
