Hi ellie: i am a sudent and this night class was great... i really felt so happy participating again in some interesant and professional great course... i am a guionist... for radio and TV, but i always dream to write my wn book... first i think to write an infantil book, but that course appears, the opportunity of doing it without asking my h money for it open... so... lets do it... thats a way to knows new people, no disconect from his confution and to feel myself doing what i like...!! creative...!!
Abour your kindy support... lets beguin...
Quote: You are pushing him too much to "decide", when he is still very uncertain. He is afraid that your R will not end up happy - but when you get angry at him for being indecisive, then it seems to him like proof that the marriage will not work out. I understand your frustration, but he needs to see you happy and self-confident, not angry and sad.
My doubt is that he is really uncertain... why he said me "I think that at the final we will be divorced??"... You know, as woman we fight a lot with out dignity being so hurt and damage... so... i accept all that critics about myself... you know... i value more than a body, a teeth, a smoke mouth... thats important, and i had showed him i take care abou that, i am now 5 kilograms less than 2 month ago... i went 2 weeks ago to dentist office to clean my teeths of stones and cigarrets marks, so... he will always find something wring with me bc he doesnt feel well with himself, he feel so insecure, so uncertain in what he thinks right now are the right values... so yes... maybe a push him a little, but only a little if we take care all hings and how they had flowed between us...
Quote: Find a girlfriend who is very attractive, who dresses beautifully and always looks great - and ask her for her honest opinion. Ask her to suggest new clothes, new makeup, new hairstyle - even if you weigh the same, you can look thinner if you dress properly.
It isnt the way i dress... bc he didnt notice what i wear... i can wear a very tight blouse or a lousy ones and is the same... he never notice it... or he doesnt wants to notic it right now... althugh i use to dress in a sexy, atractive way... i always catch the attention of his friends... i always show me so pretty and georgeus...!! i dont need o ask a girlfriend... i give advice to them... and about me being more and more thinner... yes, i can lose 5 kilograms more... i will be pleased... but when i enter 40 i need t workout a lot more just to lose 1 kg...!!... but i feel great with me, and i wear 26-28 size in pants... 4 in strech pants... so... i am not fat, but i have the typical abdommen of a mother of 3... yes...
Quote: Get your teeth fixed - I know you may be worried about the cost, but your H will appreciate it if you are spending on your appearance. Start lifting weights (bodybuilding - also called weight training) in addition to your running - it will firm up your figure.
As i told you before i already did that dentist visit and my teeths are great right now... he knows that... but he is still claiming i didnt do it before... I used to lift up weights... and yes, they can guves you a great tone muscle... but i had to quit from gym bc money issue... so, right now i only can walk up the hill each morning, and run each night...!!...
Quote: Men are visual - men in midlife crisis are panicked about aging - and this is probably one of the most important things you could do to save your marriage. So quit fighting it and making excuses 9oh, you sound SO much like I used to sound, Andrea! ) - and just start transforming yourself back to the girl he fell in love with.
I dont know if i can name his crisis as a MLC... i know is mostly about his change, a big change in look and style of life... it seems to me he is fighting with that fatty man he use to be... and i represent to him a part of that past... so, whil he fight with that fatty man, the same fatty man that has 3 kids in the past, that reach an excellent clinic office with the help of his wife... that fatty man that earns and get so many dreams and things... i cant do anything... he is trying to throw away everything of that past, and i am one of that... he is fighting with that, i knw he is nor certain about his nightmare or confution, but i cant do more... he needs to resolve his own issue... his judge and scare about being the same as his parents... his fears about being something similar of that fatty boys... he is working so hard to feel himself welll but at the same time he is working so hard to destroy all that can share and build a wonderfull life with the neww thin man he is now bc all his efforts... thanks again... Andrea
I used to lift up weights... and yes, they can guves you a great tone muscle... but i had to quit from gym bc money issue... so, right now i only can walk up the hill each morning, and run each night...!!...
