Goodmorning everyone out there.. and i hope all of you feel great with yourself even that can be a great work..!!
So, after that answer from my h about sex issue i look for oriented words from my c by mail... so, i want to share with all you hs response... maybe can be usefull for someone and maybe you can add your comments... i will try to translate it from spanigh to englsh in the best way i can
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The economic dependence issue is an important point bc, in one part you feel as no care from him to your needs, and by the other side, i think you blame yourself that you have to be pledging for money and for economic help to him.. You need to find a solution in a near future bc always the economic problems increase the problems proportion in the relation. I wish you can find something About the sexual issue, i think there are more reasons to be preocupiied. The sexual desmotivation of him is something the reflect a mayr conflict than the simple depression or his profesional situation.
It is possible that que previous crisis in M not resolved yet, had minated his interes for satisfactory sex, but also can be that the great effort you had done for not having confrontations or problems had guided you to "despicture" a little as a woman for him.
Maybe that good moments you both share laughs or pleasent situations do not represent erotic nature or ingredient for him and he accept them more as friendly situation
It is possible also that inside he had considered the possibility to continue with the M as a friend or like a kind of roommate, witout libidinosus reachs. That can happen bc the great years you have together as a couple and bc tends to live the R like those countries R when they are neighbour, the share salutations, events and together parties but nothing more.
I dont know what is really in your H mind but maybe you can do it right working for building a personal world interesting for you and atractive for him... I think you need to look youself in an world different of the anxious woman always alert of his reactions or that of the abnegate mother. It can be great you can build a work world or extra activities outside home that can give him a new appareance and for yourself. Think how you can do this and try changing the thematic in the conversations with him.Stop and try to find out what are the satisfactions he can be wishing to receive from you. The golden rule is not stop only in the economic discussion and to work in what can be behinf that.




I think is totally true i need a world for my own, a world i can feel professional realize and happy bc i use to work and create a lot and since 2 years ago i am at home, making some proyects but nothing stable. But here i find myself in a big problem bc although i try to find a work in what i like, i havnt luck until now... also i dont have money to do a course that i dream also to do and he neither has enpugh money for me for that.
I began trying to build again my own world, sociable world, getting oput with friends, and also i began trying not caring too much abpout his reactions or moods... thats so difficult but i promiss i will try.
In erotc point, i need to be sincere that i am not an erotic or sexy woman... i am "normal" one... always he is who looks for initiations... althpugh i now wear more sexy piyamas, that not my force... So, i will appreciate some tools or advices at this respect, bc i think i need also to put a little erotism in my behavior and acttitude. Not lookinf for him at a sexual way bc he is saying so clear he doesnt want it and i feel terrible after his rejection... but maybe trying to show him the other andrea.. i dont knwow if you understand me...!!...
Well, the rest is the same... we are continue doing sthings and social events together... he is not being afectve but he is being polite...
Stay in touch and i will appreciate your comments...
Andrea