ok, my h languages are words of affirmation and service... also he likes words of afection and presents, but the first are principal for hin... Right nos it seems i am talking in his languarge, being there buying his bananas and being there asking him how was the conference About being misterious, i use to be at home when he arrives home from jogging... today i hadnst nothng to do but you knw what?... i get out before he reack home, go making service to my car, wash it, etc, and then at time i know he had gone, i return... by certains comments i know he is wondering what i am doing all mornings... thanks so much ellie for your advices i will be attent about love languages... Andrea