Quote: By the other hand, i had seen that when i became affective, lovely, it is likes he becomes more secure, with power, and torn more icy, specially when his crisis is high as now...
So just act as if you are really happy - singing in the house, smiling - and be a little mysterious about what you are doing?
The idea behind the Five Love Languages: There are five ways of expressing love - Physical touch (hugs, massage, kisses - not just sex)
Words of Affirmation (compliments, "gee, honey, you are so smart and handsome, you are so clever" etc.)
Acts of Service (cooking, cleaning, changing the oil in the car, doing and fixing things for the other person)
Quality time (being together, sharing an activity, having the full attention of your spouse)
Gifts (things, like jewelry, a new gadget, etc.)
Now, if I speak French, and you speak Japanese, you might be saying "I love you" but I wouldn't understand you.
In the same way, a man who expresses himself to his wife in Acts of Service (washing and maintaining her car, working hard to support her) might be saying ILY through those acts, but if his wife's languages is words of affirmation, she thinks he doesn't love her because he's not giving her cards with flowery words saying "I love you, you're so beautiful" etc.
Most people have two love languages which are the primary way they like to receive love. They are NOT necessarily the same as the languages they use to express themselves. (The person who does Acts of Service, for instance, may actually prefer to receive Words of Affirmation - "oh, thank you honey for washing my car, you are so sweet and so thoughtful!").
So - if you can figure out your H's love languages, and start speaking them to him, he may respond better.
