Thanks Ellie for your words...!!.. yes, you are so right..!. the mean word is patience.. and little by little, eh??.
So, this morning he asked me to leave him at a conference in a hotel bc he didnt want to leave his car there... i said its ok... on the road he was so "gumpy" (thats the word you use, ellie), "icy", "sad" "like boring"... but i stop myself to enter in his cicle and talk normal, calm, continue talkin acting as if... it was like telling him... hey... you are in bad mood with me. You are sad... you feel like wanting to fight with the world... but not me...!!.. Even i feel needy about talking about our R, i didnt do this... We will do a trip wth kids and other familly in 2 weeks, but the plans were done before we talked about his insecurness and sadnes, and limboland. So, this morning on the road in my car he told me: XXX had sent me a mail asking me to deposit the amount for reservation at hotels... maybe he was expecting from me an answer like: Hey, are we going on that trip, do you really want to do it...?... but i only told him... And you did the deposit...?... asumming we will go... so, he answered me... "no, he sent me that mail yesterday afternoon, and today i wont go to office bc this conference, so, i will do it the day after tomorrow "(all that words in a sad and boring voice)... i didnt said anything and change the conversation...!!
Well, after leaving him there, i returned home and i picked Michelle book Divorce Remedy again... I also took a block and began writing my goals, concrete goals, the thecnics and what i will do... I dont know if i am correct DBing again, i know i am tired... but, i also know i cant do anything more, well, more different than throwing the towel. So, in a nex post i will put my goals and i wish you can help me with thcnincs and work... i will appreciate that... Andrea
