Quote: it seems the psiquiatris that is seing my h didnt think my h is depressed bc he didnt recommend him an antidepressive and only and anxious medicine. So, if his sadness, his mood, his problem with sleep, is not depression, can it be me??
I doubt it is you, it sounds like depression. Sometimes it can be surprisingly difficult to get the professionals to make the right diagnosis. I know it is hard not to take it personally but this is not about you.
Quote: Second, i love to be loving and affectionate but i dont know will be the best to do this right now... so, i am stoping myself not to be very affectionate or lovely, yes kindly and polite... what do you think about this issue?
I think you should continue to be happy and upbeat, and loving and affectionate when you can. Yes, sometimes he will push you away - depressed people are grumpy! But he'll still appreciate your good mood on most days. Be a little silly sometimes too and try to make him laugh! I used to think about it like a tug boat trying to turn around an oil tanker - at first it doesn't seem like you are having any effect, because the movement is so small it is imperceptible, but eventually it will start to swing around.
I even used to make a game of seeing how long it would take in the evening to turn my 's mood around. Sometimes he would come home from work so grumpy that I wouldn't get a positive word from him until bedtime! But i knew that if I Acted As If, was positive and upbeat, had a nice dinner and music and a little glass of wine, it would happen.
