Well, I finally talked to my son. He was REALLY ANGRY! He was throughing the F word all over the place. I told him H and I are married and we want to share our lives and want to live together. I told him I didn't expect anything from him at this point. I told him I did understand and acknowledge his feelings. He said I didn't or I wouldn't do this. I didn't say anymore and left his room. Then he started yelling at me from his room. I couldn't help starting to cry and feeling hopeless. He called his sister and they talked about it--neither of them likes H much. My D21 gave him some advice she had received in counseling 5 years ago about how anger was the secondary feeling and what was really going on was the his feelings were hurt.
He actually came and talked to me about that and calmed down quite a bit. He said he wasn't as angry anymore when he realized why he was angry. I reassured him that I loved him and was always here for him. I told him this was going to be hard for all of us. Sure, it would be easy if we stayed separated--no conflict.
So it is going to be tough and S just asked for some time and even asked to get an appt with C. God, I love this kid!
So H will be coming home this weekend. I am soooo nervous! I'm sure I'll be here alot!
