Quote: Wow! First I'm a little offended that I am putting my son's needs aside "to have a man in my bed". That is a pretty weird thing to say. I did think you made some good points Ellie, but that one was way off base. I think it is hard for someone who isn't in a step family situation to understand this too. My S16 has not had much of a father/son relationship with my H. He has a father and is loyal to him--perfectly natural.
Mollie - didn't mean to offend you. Just wanted to point out that when parents work solely from the point of getting their own romantic needs met, they sometimes ignore their children's very legitimate needs in the process. I think that if your H has never bonded with your son, wants to come in and "make the rules" when, as you say, your son is very responsible and behaving well, your H has not made amends to your son for his betrayal and the inevitable effects it has had on your son and his life - well, I guess my point is, that your son's viewpoint seems legitimate and not just the machinations of a spoiled or selfish child. And I think his feelings deserve as much consideration as the adult feelings. At least a more respectful approach than just "H is moving back and you can move out if you don't like it".
