Quote: I know - it is really difficult. But look at it through his eyes.
Totally disagree. One thing I do agree with is a child should have an "opinion" but not to govern what is best for his mother or see how it is thru his eyes. A child should "never" dictate what a parent wants to do. She gave birth and life to that child and it's her life to live according to her needs. He has emotions, yes he is hurt and doesnt want this, but life is not handed to anyone. You take the good with the bad.
Quote: Just because you forgave your H doesn't mean your son will - or that he has to.
And that is his right. If he allows HIS emotions to destroy the happiness of his mother, then he is in the wrong. One, it wasnt or is his situation, 2, he doesnt have to DB anything, he is just a kid. It will take family therapy for all three to overcome the hurt and pains that were proposed on the family, and if the child is still has negative tendecies towards it, then it's the mothers decesion on how she will handle it and him...period!
