Z-thank you so much--you're post made me a little teary eyed! I agree with everything you say and have been told the same by my C. I just feel I've put my S16 through so much. He wants to be my protector and the man of the house and I know that isn't the right role for him in our family. I am afraid of his anger. I don't want to lose him!
I really want my H to be able to "change his ways" with my S too. He doesn't have his own children. He didn't have a good male role model when he was growing up. He doesn't even know where his father is and his step dad abused him. But he has a idea in his mind of how kids and parents "should" behave and he doesn't seem to want to look past that.
He and I have to have more discussion about this and your advice is priceless. Thanks Z!
