I was afraid this would happen. I told my S16 that H and I were thinking of living together again and we wanted to know his thoughts (S16 is not H's son). S16 (almost 17) pretty much shut me down and said no, his life would be miserable and he wants me to wait until he is 18 and he will move out and then I can do whatever I want.
His basic concern is that H will come in and be an authority figure and start telling him what to do. H is not good parent material and has a hard time with being bossy about what he wants. I have told H I don't want S16's life to change if we live together. H said that probably wasn't a problem unless I'm letting S16 get away with something.
S16 pretty much does what he pleases. He does have to keep his room, car and bathroom clean. He gets good grades in school, goes to college part time, plays soccer and is teaching himself guitar. I pretty much don't have to worry about him. He has a good head on.
He says he will think about it, but he doesn't see himself changing his mind. I am going to talk to C about it today. I'm about to give up, but on the other hand should S16 be allowed to decide something like this for me? I don't want him to be miserable but he is very stubborn too.
I'm so close to having my M back--but this could be a real deal breaker. Any advice is appreciated!
