That's really great! I'm definitely learning that COMMUNICATION is the key to a really good relationship. That seems to be the common denominator in most relationship problems....people simply don't communicate or are afraid to communicate clearly with their SO...whether it's about sex, feelings, finances etc. People tend to avoid conflict when it comes to discussions that could potentially hurt the feelings of their SO or piss them off.
This lack of communication can lead to hurt feelings that lead to affairs, SSM's, and/or divorce. It's really amazing how it works.
As I told my H the other day (who has in the past told me there are things he simply WILL NOT talk to me or a C about)..."I understand your unwillingness to discuss whatever it is that you won't let out...but you do realize don't you that it's often those things that people don't discuss or won't let out that are the key to their problems?" He just looked at me with a "dang your a smart lady!" look on his face, which always cracks me up....and said "you're right." Like he hadn't even thought of that.
But to be honest...I'd never screwed up enough courage to put it to him that way either. Saying what's on my mind and saying it clearly is something I'm working on. I don't know why, but I'd never really called him on the carpet about being unwilling to discuss certain things. Now I have, now he's thinking about it....and now we are seeing a new very good C that we both really like.
I can't wait to see where we are at 6 months from now...or this time next year. I KNOW things are going to be sooo much better for us too...they are already much better than they were a year ago!
Good luck, and I'll be watching your progress.
GEL
