Sam, I often think about the question when I meet that special someone "So what happened"? I imagine I'll dodge the question the first couple of times. I'm definetly not the type to run her down or blame the whole thing on her. On the other hand do I really want to tell that potential special someone about the wrong things I did. Knowing how brutally honest I am, I think I would, just not all the details. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.
Someone who blames all the problems on the other either hasn't looked at their role or isn't really sharing. I'd like to think that everyone takes away something good from a failed relationship (trying to be an opptimist here!).
I prefer a person who has the capacity to love, when its difficult to love. Doesnt really matter to me whether they have been married once before or not.
Wow, more and more time passes between each post. This may be my last post, maybe not. I am the master of indecision. Anyway, just wanted to thank each one of you for your contribution, wether listening, reading, responding or just writing about your situation, everyone helped me. So thanks. I am thankfull for this board, its a great outlet. I've been divorced a year now, my D anniversary was two days ago and I just realized it, not sure what that means, and right now I really dont care what it means. One thing I've learned is that I've been thinking too much, every little event doesnt have to mean something anymore.
How about that Dbing, has anyone reread the book. I read religously in the begining. I guess I didnt get the results I expected and lost interest in Dbing. I will say one thing, I will look differently on the next relationship. Who couldn't? What will you do differently next time around? Try harder, love deeper, give more, forgive, accept, have patience.
In the end I suppose the biggest mistake we could make is to not learn something from all of this. What have you learned? I guess the biggest mistake I made was taking someone for granted, we all do I guess I just took it too far. I pray I never do it again. My Life, goes on! My boys are health and happy, my XW seems to be happy. For the most part I'm in a good way, I'm not busting at the seams happy, but happy with who I am and where I am in my life, when it comes right down to it thats enough. Oh and I believe that one day a gorgeous, equally happy young lady will be by my side, this time forever.
Happy new year and best of luck in all you do in 2006.
Glad to hear from you Hope. I have been wondering how you've been. Sounds like you are moving forward like all of us. Doesn't it seem like time crawls and flies at the same time? I'll post again later. I've been on the computer too long for now. Take care--Sam.
