Quote: You were always a really good father, but know you are a great father
Welcome back. I think it's wonderful she said this. Ya know, I consider myself a great father, but I've never heard that from my 1st ex. By the way, about OM, it is more likely than not that he will blow it with your kids one way or the other. Your W will be very protective and given the fact that you are in her eyes a great dad she will draw the comparison and likely find OM lacking. Just MHO.
Its almost like the rejection doesnt hurt anymore
It shouldn't. You are stronger now. It doesn't mean you don't care. I've had more rejection than most ten people on here (since I pursue ten times more). I see it as a chance to show how well I can bounce back...a 180 for me. So don't let a slip and a rejection get you down.
Quote: Maybe its because others have made changes and choose not to look back knowing it is pointless. While I have changed alot of my negative behaviors, I still have alot of regret and shame for the wrong I did. Sometimes I wonder if there really is hope for those of us who did wrong. I guess I just havent forgiven myself yet
Hope, we all make mistakes. The biggest mistake you can make at this point is to think that you are undeserving of forgiveness. If you truly looked at yourself and saw the things that were wrong and you made an honest effort to change them you have nothing to regret. You can't carry this emotional baggage around. Your MA seems lower than snail sh*t at the moment. I hope it is just temporary.
BTW, about meeting the OM. I would have done the same. He's nothing to you....just a speed bump. He can't hold a candle to you and if she can't see that yet then it's her loss.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
