Hope, I think you might need to consider things like I am having to. Is your XW really the person now that you love or has she become someone else? And, the other thought...is she really who you thought she was, is she really the one you have loved so much or have you idealized/fantasized a little about who you need to love? I am coming to the conclusion that my xw is neither the person I thought she was or the person I need to be in a marriage with. That makes letting go easier. People are rarely just who we think they were/are in these sitches. If they were who we thought they were, then we all wouldn't be here...we would be working on our Ms, in counseling and living together.
