Jo, thanks for the post. We do a really good job of not pulling the kids into the situation. I just feel like she is taking advantage of me, and is not taking enough responsibility for the kids. I dont mind taking care of them, I just think that the boys are the ones missing out because their mother isn't around enough. She has a new job and it requires her to work alot of nights and attend alot of training. I also dont believe she has realized how difficult being a single parent is, because I am always there to pick up the slack. I guess this moring kinda ticked me off because she could have let me know last night, but I didnt talk to her so I dont know the whole story. Again, I avoided contact because I felt it would have been a non-productive conversation. As far as she knows I left before she called.
She called around noon and wanted to know if I would come over and hook up her icemaker. She also asked if I could stay and have supper with her and the boys. I accepted.
La, I am a very helping person. I have always tried to help people. I still want to help her out. And I dont read anything into her asking for help. I try to look at it as an opportunity to show her the new me. So for now I will continue to help her out, but I will not always drop everything I'm doing to help her at a moments notice. She has to realize this is inconsiderate. She must start taking on the responsibilities of being a single parent. I ask nothing of her, Maybe I should? I dont know if I can get much darker. Right now I dont always pick up the phone when she calls. I also dont call her unless its absolutely necessary. With kids it makes it impossible to be completely dark.
