I hate that you are in such a funk lately. I posted the following on Gabriel's thread and I am going to post it on your thread also.
"I wanted to tell you a short story for a little inspiration. I recently spoke to a friend of mine from highschool. Her and her husband had divorced because of an affair by the husband. Well, her and her husband remarried two years after their divorce. She did no divorce busting, and from what I can tell the reason they remarried is because of enough time passing to heal the anger and hurt. I always liked the husband. He is truly a kind and nice man. I can tell that after enough time passed and the anger started to melt, they probably realized that divorcing was a mistake."
Hope,
I think you should continue to distance yourself. I think you are right about not wanting to talk to wife right now because you are too angry to say anything productive. Your anger will lesson just give yourself some more time to adjust to your new circumstances. I am sorry about the boyfriend. That really sucks. You can do something though. You can be a good friend to wife so when she starts having problems with boyfriend, she can come to you.
The roller coaster of emotions does end Hope. You just need to give it some time. Things are still so new with you. I know it seems like the pain will never end, but it does. I promise.
I want you to know that I don't look at your situation and think that at least I have it better than you. I look at your situation and see similiar circumstances that I have walked through and come out on the other side. I wish so much that your pain could just end, but unfortunately you are going to have to deal with the pain and heartache. It does get better though. I know when people used to tell me that, I didn't believe them. I thought my situation was different. Today, I realize they were so right. I just want to tell you that it does end Hope.
The thing that helped me more than anything was developing a close relationship with God. Remember that book I told you about by Joyce Meyers. It is called something like "21 ways to overcome anxiety, anger and discontentment". This book helped me a lot. Maybe you should look into it.
I wish my computer would work right so I could post to you regularily. It drives me crazy when I see you post and I can't respond immediately. Take care and know I think about you and how you are doing.
Sam
P.S. My username is slightly different because I don't have access to my password and had to create a new one.
