I can post! Can you believe it? Sorry I have been a stranger. I think I am back in the system and the computer will just remember me when I come back to this board without having to log in at all.
I think being friends with wife is the only way to go. This is essentially what I did and now I am getting better and better at it. The more I make it seem that my only interest is H's well being, the closer he wants to be to me. He opens up to me more and more everyday. I rarely ask about us and just pretend that it doesn't matter to me that much. My concerns are always about his well being when we speak. Your hard work will eventually start to pay. You truly have to let W go with all your heart and soul, and when you do, your chances of reconciliatoin will increase tenfold. This will make you stronger too. Plus, it will allow you to make the new relationship something you can enjoy also. Hang in there Hope. You are doing everything right.
