I cant get my mind around it either. However, I know I will always be there for her if she needs me and ViseVersa. I occasionally do nice things for her and she occasionally she does nice things for me. Is that the definition of a friendship? I also believe living on good terms with her is beneficial for the boys. I believe oneday she might reconsider the relationship, but I try not to hold my breath.
As far the divorce, it was not a friendly act, however it was what she felt she had to do. To avoid doing what in your heart you feel you have to do, is to not be true to yourself. Truethfully I would not want her with me if she didn't want to be with me.
Our approach doesnt work for everyone, but for now it seems to work for us. But it is hard. At times I cuss her (to myself) and get incredibly angry with her, but this passes and I realize those are just emotions I have. Everyone has these emotion. Its very beneficial to vent those emotions to a friend or in private, dont keep them bottled up, but dont to "let go" on your ex. This does nothing but damage.
As for moving on... I believe I have moved about as much as I wish to. I'm not the kinda guy that's gonna jump into another relationship. I go out, meet girls, and make friends. I am focused on my two boys who need me right now, they are my first priority.
Tell me if you think I living in a dream world. I take all comments, but comments that are contrary to my thoughts make me think even more. Not that you'll change my mind, but thinking is a good thing.
