Definitely do NOT stop complimenting her, even if this doesn't work out, carry on. (I think you have a good chance of working out).
You have to make DB'ing a way of life rather than just aimed at getting your W back - it is when it is automatic that it becomes part of who you are, rather than a process.
When I first started DB'ing, the responses I was making to my H seemed so out of character for me that it felt like acting. But as my coach pointed out to me, all new skills need learning, even communication skills.
Eventually, I got into such a pattern of responding to my H in this new positive way that it stopped feeling like acting and became second nature. It is now like part of my personality, so you must keep doing it, keep practicing and eventually it will be like part of yours.
Of course I have the odd slip up and so might you, but we are all human and entitled to bad moments.
You're doing great, the fact that she touches you to attract your attention is good. Just focus on the positives and you'll get there.
You have my admiration for being so strong about the house move - they were wiping me off the ceiling.
