I know W wouldn't take advantage of me. I agree that we should both agree on what stays and what goes. We will probably go through room by room and box as we go. So, yes I will be there on moving day, I will most likely move her. It will be tough, but I can handle it. I try to concentrate on the fact that they are just material things, and do not compare to the relationship lost, so it shouldn't be as traumatic. Of course I'm glutten for punishment. I have seen her for the last two nights, its gone pretty well. We have casual conversation, sometimes the conversation gets a personel, but no aurguing. Tonight we will go out to eat. Of course this is all with the boys, otherwise she wouldnt spend the time with me. I am glad that she is able to spend time with me/us. I just hope it does not completely stop once she gets her house. I know I just need to go slow, continue to work on me, be with my boys and not get my hopes up. Thanks for keeping me in check. If you've read 5 laugauges you'll understand my question here... I believe my wife's primary language to be physical touch, secondary is words of affirmation. I know I cannot express love with acts of physical touch (tried it, she recoils), however I have noticed her touch my are in passing to get my attention. Since we have known each other I have expressed my love to her in my language "acts of service". I continue to express love as acts of service. Over the last couple of weeks I have tried to express love using words of affirmation, anything from, "you look good in that color" "your hair looks good that way" to "I think you'll do great in your new job, you are so good at helping people and I can tell you get alot of satisifaction out of helping people". I try not to overwehlm her. I attempt to say something affirming to her each face to face. I also dont say things just to say them, its very difficult to compliment someone when you are/were a more critical/judgemental person, but I try and am getting better at it. While she does not seem to mind the compliments, I think she believes that I'm only saying these things to get her back, as it was not the way I talked to her before. My question.... do I stop? I hate to stop because its the one way that I feel I can really still give to her in a way that she missed so much. Hope
