Hello everyone, My Story:
Me 34
W 33 (still have trouble saying/typing X)
s2
s4
I have decided this is the forum to post in, I started in Newcomers then moved to surviving, now this seems to be the place for me.
Wife came back from a business trip to Florida in July and dropped the bomb. Divorce was final 2 days after xmas. Wife never budged an inch about the divorce, she was more than fair, she didnt want anything, only the divorce. I have probably had the fastest, easiest, most painless divorce ever. Well the legal side anyway, the emotional side is another story.
Reason's for the Divorce are many to list a few, verbal abuse, taking her for granted, not appreciating her, not showing passsion for her, not being aggessive enough in my career (I have no ambition), not being socially active enough.
The good news is I took a good hard look at my life and really didn't like what I had become. So, I made some changes in my life, I decided to stop those bad behaviors (or at least control them). I have done really good, I am proud of myself, confident in my abilities and generally a happy person.
W sees changes, but insists its over. I will give her one thing, see never back peddled or sent me mixed signals. I remain faithfull, dont want to date others and am still in love with her. She knows it and I think she sees it as a burden. She actually wants me to start dating.
I continue to focus on myself and our boys. I try to be there for her.
She will close on a house in 2 weeks. She has a somewhat serious boyfriend (whom she works with).
Basically I focus on my 2 boys which I keep 90% of the time. I also focus on myself, I GAL every chance I get.
A couple questions about an upcoming event:
We have not divided up the household items yet. As she will be moving I would like you to weigh in on the does, donts and any general rules to follow. How the heck do I keep from breaking down? At this point I'm ready to let her have anything she wants, even move her myself. Not because I want to be rid of her, but because I still want to help her out. Advice is appreciated.
Hope