Oh, I think H is okay in that department - I don't think he gets lost in blaming himself. And truly - as much as the whole thing did shake up the kids and have repercussions - I think most of what has gone on with D has more to do with her inheriting H's predisposition to depressive illness. (I say that, but even though I've never been the least bit depressed, there does seem to be some clinical depression hidden in my family tree also, so I can't say it all comes from H's side. The obsessive-compulsive thing, though - DEFINITELY not from my side ).
In fact, H has always been particularly close with D and been a very attentive and positive parent. I think it disturbs him most to feel like he did everything he could to raise her to be a strong, self-sufficient, confident young woman, and he just can't believe she isn't turning out that way (yet - give her time ).
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