Hi Ellie, I finally got a sec to stop in and sorta see what's up with everyone. I saw your news here, and have to say I sure sympathize with all your child-related challenges.
I might suggest the book "Parenting Teens with Love and Logic" by Foster Cline, MD. It is excellent, we use it with parents here and many of the parenting education classes offered are based on his work. the "Better" schools in this area also use his behavior management models.
One thing I find really good about the book is that he offers suggestions for specific situations.
It can be challenging to follow, especially for those of us who are "fixers", as it is based on the use of natural and logical consequences, and setting up a childs life to provide both.
I know Foster does workshops for professionals and parents, I've heard him speak several times. He is excellent if he would happen to be in your area.
