kml wrote ----------- People keep trying to tell me this is just normal teenage rebellion on D's part, but I really don't buy it. It just feels too reckless, too abnormal, too much a part of her underlying mood disorder. ----------- BTDT almost when our D was 16. No eating disorder but crazy lying bf. W and I said to d16, if you do "A", "B" is going to happen. We stuck to it.
D16 said we were bad parents at the time. Now D is 34 with 2 of her own kids and she understands why we did those mean things to her.
D16 said she had restrictive, mean parents. D34 knows why and has bought into the idea that parents need to be parents at all costs, and the frienship parents want to have with their kids does not count for much. So, most kids grow up eventually. Sometimes it takes having kids of their own.
Ellie, could your H have come home to help you out. Maybe if you did not want him to come home, try leaning on him more through phome contact. Don't try to be mom and dad all of the time.
---------------- "Hi this is the police. Do you know where your daughter is?" ---------------- Every action has a consequence or a reward Ellie. What "fair and logical" consequence does D14 have for being out at 2AM? For being with BF? For riding around? All seperat actions. Each require/deserve a reaction from you.
OG Lou,
Formerly one of the mean parents in this world but now D wants a GP like me around her kids. Tells me not to "spoil" the girls.
