Shes not on restriction because of the boyfriend - she's on restriction for buying pot, using it and distributing it to her younger brother and his friends (7th and 8th graders!) who got so stoned they stayed out all night and walked 5 miles in the middle of the night (each boy's parents thought they were staying with one of the other boys).

Both D14 and S13 are on restriction for this. They are not allowed unsupervised time - ie, they must be either with a parent, or being supervised by another child's parent who knows the situation and can be trusted to keep a close eye on them. We have been very welcoming of them having friends over anytime they want, though, and have tried our best not to come across as punishing, but simply that they have lost the freedoms they had because they have shown they were not capable of handling things responsibly.

D's BF is welcome at other times, but frankly, I don't think he is pursuing her that avidly. He seems like a nice enough kid, but has cancelled on her the last two Fridays in favor of driving around with his buddies. He had cancelled on her last night (after she had planned to cook dinner for him!) and that was part of the dynamic - apparently she called him to complain about his treatment of her, and he decided to "make it up to her" by coming by and taking her out after midnight. Oh - and his explanation for cancelling earlier? He had to take some money to a girl he knows to help her out because she owed money to a drug dealer!!!!!!!

That said, I don't think he's a bad kid - I think he's a little too much like my daughter - somewhat depressed and drawn to the "drama" of other troubled kids.

Ellie