What caused your D's depression issues? Prozac can also cause anxiety as I'm sure you already know, so that might be causing some of her behaviour.

I just wanted to give you a perspective from a 16 yr old's point of view (which I remember clearly - I am now 27).

I was thrown out of home at age 16 for refusing to give up my bf (who later became my H). Prior to this my mother felt in a similar way to you about me having a bf. She wouldn't let us have any unsupervised time together apart from the time he drove me to and from college (he was 19 and my cab driver).

She would constantly ask questions about what we'd been up to and tried to tell me the age of consent was 18 (it's 16 in the UK). She packed me off to my grandmothers for A MONTH to try and split us up.

In the end I was doing what your D is doing, sneeking out in the evenings, running off with him after college, making out in cars because we never got any space.

In the end, she flipped and said if I didn't give up bf I had to leave. I loved bf so I left. We rented a house together an hour away so she couldn't bug us. We continued our education, we got engaged and he asked me to marry him.
We chose to have each one of our children, even the one I was pregnant with at 18. This surprises many people, but she was planned, wanted and loved.

Despite our M problems etc I don't regret anything I did and I'm still with my H now even if it is a bit tentative.

Some kids will just do what they want no matter what you say, and the more you push, the more they rebel.

I know your D is 2 years younger than I was and as a mother you have to look out for her and I know she has these extra problems, but have you thought maybe if you eased up with the bf she might not sneek out etc?

(Not wishing to offend - but had my mother not been so anti-bf I would not have moved so soon, and not as far away).

If she has to be supervised for certain reasons, can you not invite her bf over twice a week instead of once? I know this seems like rewarding bad behaviour, but she's doing this because she isn't allow and if you allow her more maybe she won't behave like that.

Jo.

Who fell in love at 16 and is still just as in love with the same man.