The call every parent dreads - 2 AM - "Hi this is the police. Do you know where your daughter is?"
D14 snuck out of the house in the middle of the night to go riding in a car with her 16 year old "boyfriend" (D14 is not allowed to actually date, he is allowed to come over once a week and watch a movie with her). He ran a stop sign and got stopped by the local police, who luckily questioned her age and called me.
D had been told last week that she couldn't go driving with BF because A) she's still on restriction and not allowed to be unsupervised B) she's 14 and not allowed to be with a boy unsupervised and C)he's just gotten his license and is not what I would consider an experienced driver (and I thought in California a 16 year old couldn't take other teens in their car with them for the first 6 months after getting their license?).
So I went down and collected her from the police officer. She was tearful and remorseful but frankly I don't think she gets the big picture.
Now D is asleep (in MY room) and I am so wired now I can't sleep (and I was EXHAUSTED when I first went to sleep at 11).
H is not here, he is staying at a beautiful nearby hotel for a business meeting. I was supposed to stay there with him, my mom was going to stay with the kids, but she got called away because her sister is dying. (Thank GOD my mom wasn't here to get the call, she's 73, she probably would have had a heart attack!).
Tomorrow night I was planning to go stay overnight in the beautiful hotel with my H, since S13 was going to be staying at a friend's and I thought S18 and D14 could stay alone for one night if I was just down the road - it's only 10 minutes away - but I guess that is impossible now.
People keep trying to tell me this is just normal teenage rebellion on D's part, but I really don't buy it. It just feels too reckless, too abnormal, too much a part of her underlying mood disorder. I am SO ready to be DONE with her adolescence already, and she's only 14!!! Heaven help me.
