Hope you are having a great time. I am glad someone enjoys that cold white stuff. I am sick to death of it.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Had a fabulous trip, taught my S18 to snowboard (blind leading the blind ) and rode really well myself, if I do say so. Got home just in time to go out ot dinner with much-loved friends from Australia who were only in town for the day, now H is at airport picking up my favorite SIL and her daughters for a visit
Ellie, i hope you don't mind me finding you to thank you again for the help the other day.. I just read breifly your stich here and find it amazing what you have done. I got the book The Five Laungages of Love and have been trying to see which one my H is, but it seems that he keeps changing. I keep hoping he will be in a "normal" frame of mind so i can kid with him and see if i can get him to answer the questioner. I guess it is really bad when you are unsure what you H really gets the vibs from. After 22yr i thought that i knew him but i guess not if i can't figure that out. Maybe this has been part of the problem?
When he first moved out, he made a comment that he had doughts when he did that. Maybe if i known about the way they reacted to us i could have been able to avoid his moving out. Hine site is always better they say. So i am really trying to read him, but like i said he keeps bouncing around. Any suggestions other that getting him to take the quiz?
I E-mailed him last night as you suggested and just thanked him for the good nights sleep with him next to me. After he read it i got no responce but he did keep calling like he always does. It seems that most of the time any comment about feelings is met with silence after. Once in a great while i can tell when it is alright and tell him that ILY and i will get the same back in a sincere voice. All along we have been ML on and off. Lately i have had to instagate this more but his comment is " I was thinking about that too" so do i continue to or start waiting for him. He was always a take it or leave it about this. Well sorry to hi-jack your stich about me but i was told that you could help me more that some of the other posters as you have been thru what i am going thru and they haven't gotten there yet. Anything else you can suggest would br greatly appreciated. Once again Thanks and Happy Easter, Sonni
Hey all - SIL just left today, we had a great visit with her and her two girls. We took all the kids to see Robots yesterday - very cute, uplifting message, and fun subtle refernces to other movies (Soylent Green? Wizard of Oz. Maybe even Rocky Horror?).
Heading for a one-day visit to UCI with S18 tomorrow. Still waiting to hear from Berkeley tomorrow night, although I think it is unlikely he will get accepted there. Hoping to get up to Northern Cal. later in the month to look at Davis and Santa Cruz.
This was the last one. We just got back from a tour of UCI today - boy, the campus has grown (and the saplings have become big trees ) since I went there. S18 really liked it - and was really leaning towards it - then the Berkeley acceptance came in, and now the choice is going to be tough.
Berkeley - well - it's Berkeley - huge name, lots of brilliantly eccentric peers for my S. BUT - they accepted him for SPRING semester - some kind of weird delayed admission because the campus is so full. They have a program, though, where he can come to Berkeley in the fall, take classes off-campus for a semester that fulfill some of his requirements, and MAYBE get on-campus housing if there is enough available (not guaranteed). In most other ways he's just like a regular student - and then, spring semester, he IS a regular semester. Hmmmm....do you think they just expect so many drop-outs in the first semester???
UCI, on the other hand, has none of those hassles - AND is conveniently a 90 minute drive from home - but campus life is much less vibrant, still a commuter school in lots of ways. (Architecture is awesome, though - has 4 times as many buildings as when I was there, all wildly modern).
So I think there really is no "wrong" decision here. Now - to visit Berkeley.
) and rode really well myself, if I do say so. Got home just in time to go out ot dinner with much-loved friends from Australia who were only in town for the day, now H is at airport picking up my favorite SIL and her daughters for a visit 