Okay, so it's past hurts that have been dredged up by the taxes that are making you unhappy. And your h is not in a position to give you any comfort or consoling. This makes sense Deb and is perfectly normal. It sounds to me like you are really angry with your h and who wouldn't be? (He's been an a-one jerk! LOL) But it appears that you are TRYING to find current issues for you to be mad about...using THOSE issues to justify your feelings right now. Does this make sense?
Deb, you have every right to be angry about all those feelings that prepping for taxes has dredged up. So my advice would be to FEEL it, VENT it (here, of course, not to h) and then take some time for yourself. Maybe tonight you can get to bed early. Tell H that you need some "me" time to recharge. Read a book, watch TV, just re-group a little.
Try your best not to project your anger. Hang in there Deb.
If I don't hear from you again today, I hope you have a great weekend.
