Quote: How can H be with OW tomorrow if S is home from school - won't H need to stay with him?
and that my friend is the crux of the problem...I would think so, but when H talks about sending S to school anyway, it set off warning bells for me. and when he talks about needing to be gone doing stuff, and starts taking checks out of the check book....which he did yesterday evening. It also irritates me to no end that he might consider leaving S at home alone when he's hurt. he is only 12, for heavens sake. a mature 12, but still 12 is 12.
I don't know what's gone on, I left and came to work this morning, however, H had already gone into S's bedroom and checked on him and given him nuprin by the time I got up this morning, and informed me that S was not feeling well enough to go to school. So I guess he had a change of heart. H is expressing irritation that perhaps the friend hurt S's nose on purpose (he see's the friend as a punk). So maybe that was part of his frustration. S believes it was an accident, and heaven knows when 12 year olds wrestle, noses get bumped. I'm hoping that if H leaves, he won't be gone for long.
Quote: If you KNEW H was spending Saturday mornings boffing the oW - would that be the end of it for you,
Frankly, I don't know. here again is part of the problem. I have been really debating what I intend to do when my "reassessment" deadline rolls around....I am not entirely sure I will redouble my efforts if I find out then that he is still carrying on and lying about it. Part of the problem is that he started the Saturday "paperwork" the very Saturday after I found out about the A and the bomb dropped. and, not only started that, but started going to the out-of-town office (he says) to do it, so I couldnt/cant verify...says it's less likely for him to have distractions/interruptions there....yep, I bet, like a pissed off wife. it's also difficult because I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was lying then...the only thing that makes it any different now is his attitude. and frankly I don't know if I can trust that, or trust my instincts (which don't know what to tell me right now anyway) or if I'm reading too much into it out of hope and wishful thinking.
I guess the short answer is I don't know, I might be done. I'm debating.
Quote: Don't you think it's possible that this guy just is a really poor manager of his time at work and needs that extra work time?
Frankly that's another part of the problem, in fact he is an excellent manager of his time and very self-disciplined. that raises my level of doubt and anxiety. However, he is a poor typist, and they have to do some of their own continuing treatment plans rather than dictating them now, so that could be part of it. H also has a client load 2X the size of the other therapists, so that could be part of it. I try to give him the benefit of the doubt, but........
