You have received good advice from Sage and others but this is just my .02
I heard a teaching once on FEAR, which was described as F.alse E.vidence A.ppearing R.eal.
The devil (or even our own minds) loves to take tidbits and twist and turn them in our brains until we have many times made something out of nothing. We can or I can I should say, take a tiny peace of "evidence" and work it into a whole scenario that I imagine to be real and later turns out to be something totally false.
Refusing to let FEAR govern my reactions, thoughts, and dbing is practically a full time job in itself.
I have you one beat on the tax thing though.
We still have not filed our 2003 taxes, yeah you got that right, 2003 taxes because H won't do what He needs to do which is his business associated expense reports. He owns his own business so that is a huge problem. We filed two extensions but they expired in October 2004. It took my MIL to point it out to me that H doesn't want to look at the $ he spent on OW.
By H's own admission he has squandered 50,000 on her, paying for her living expenses for 2 years, all the fancy trips etc. Like someone else mentioned we need an emoticon that shows a barfy face.
I do not know what to due about the taxes. We shouldn't owe $ because of H's big business losses, but they still need to be done. I ask H about it every six weeks or so, but then he tells me he has been "busy."
Short of filing for a D or an S I feel powerless to get him to do what needs to be done and it isn't something I can do mysself as I don't have access to the needed business info.
What a mess.
Hang in there and concentrate on the here and now, not what is in the past.
