Hi there stranger! I was thinking that no news was good news from you. It really does sound like you guys are keeping up with the forward movement! I couldn't be happier for you. Here's a couple of thoughts....
Quote: I got a little tearful from disappointment, slipped up, told him I felt insecure and worried about us. H got irritated, said I make him "feel hopeless" when I say that. I still havent figured out HOW that makes HIM feel hopeless.
A unfair as it seems, I think that your h counts on you to be the rock. He is following your lead. When you start to have doubts, he naturally has doubts.
Quote: what I cant figure out is why she's trying to get to me like that.
Because she can not get to you any other way!!!!!! Your h is back with you. You are most likely right, she is trying to bait you. Park somewhere else and don't worry about it. Remember, living well is the best revenge!
Quote: I couldnt figure out what he was talking about, I thought it must have been sometime when I was undressed or something, but he said it was when I was walking into the living room, just wearing jeans and a t-shirt.
Ah Deb, hon, this is so very telling! When you were RELAXED and doing your own thing....not taking temperatures and trying to figure everything out....your h looked at you and was able to let his desire come through. I think this is really important for you Deb. Stop "looking" at him all the time and give him the opportunity to "look" at you. He really does like what he sees...(it's obvious from all the SEX you guys have! LOL)
Quote: except I know he was there first, and she could have parked over there by him. again, an example of detachment failure!
Now, I may be wrong here but I do not think of this as detachment failure. It's simple observation. You see your h's car. You see her car. Detachment doesn't make you blind, it allows you to be aware without over-reacting, without triggering bad habits. If you allow yourself to stew over it (or do anything else like mention it to h or become clingy or needy) then I would say that you are too attached.
About the ring...big sigh....I must say this would aggravate me to no end. (It actually DOES aggravate me and he's not even my h! LOL) I have this vision of you asking your h to borrow his lotion and then making a production of taking off your ring. And when your h (with shock, I am sure) asks you why you are doing that...you say, "well, honey, I don't want to offend any of my future boyfriends by wearing a ring!" Got to love it!
All in all sounds like things are great! Keep up the good work and drop us a line from time to time (haha) and let us know you are still out there!
Dawn
So sorry about the pony Deb. It's a difficult thing to do to say the least but sometimes the nicest thing that we can do for our dear friend/companion.
