Deb, Good for you on controlling your actions. I know what you mean by having all those thoughts. I am the same as you. My mind wanders all the time.
I still ahve so many unanswered questions and need to know things only we have no contact. She hung up on me Christmas day and I have no Idea why. We didn't argue or anything.
i just ask if I could bring SD present by. I said I would leave it on her door step so she would not have to see me. She said if that is what you want to do. Then hung up. I have not tried to contact her since.
Hang in there, I think you are in a good position to get him back. Good luck.