Deb, I read your novel and it seems to me that H still has storng feelings for OW. However he seems to want to be with you. I think he is conflicted which is good. He seems to do well until he sees OW. Then his alien brain takes over. I suggest you back off a little and be a little distant. Let him wonder what you are thinking. If he raelly and truly wanted to be with OW he would just leave and go to her. My XW left for OM and has not looked back even though he is married.
Let him pursue you for a while. He has noticed how kind you are to him. Just be kind ,but withdrawn or detached. Don't say ILY so much. Let him say it first.
Then again, nothing I tried worked so maybe I shouldn't give advice. Good luck to you no matter waht you decide to do.
