Hi Deb, So sorry that you've been feeling so under the weather! It sounds like maybe you are feeling the tiniest bit better today?
Quote: will this ever end?????? Is there anything I can do to push it to end faster (in my favor, of course). It is making me nuts.
I can only "tell you" from my personal experience .. and that is .. going the GAL route (big time!) and continuing to keep your lips zipped about OW AND continuing to affirm your H. This (I believe) is what "clinched" the end of OW(s) in our R. You ARE doing a good job in this area .. maybe you just need to step up your GAL program?
You have to remember that the more you focus on OW, the more you are going to "radiate" those feelings out .. whether you mean to or not. That is why it is so important to get yourself focused on GAL. (Believe me .. it works!!)
Since you have to "see" OW occasionally, I would think that she would absolutely hate it if she sees you being so happy, self-assured, etc. .. don't you? Make sure you are putting on that act constantly at work (as much as you possibly can!) After a while it won't be an "act" anymore .. it will become part of you. OW will see you (and seethe?)and also people may very well begin to say things to your H about how "great" you seem to be right now .. I know you ARE "GAL"-ing right now .. just keep pushing hard in that department. Find new things you can do .. make new friends(?) etc.
