Quote: I don't disagree with NOP's moral stance, but I do disagree, once again, with his advice. I think the fact that he is so HD sort of gives him a blindspot which allows him to believe that HDW will find success by treating their LDH's like LDW.
I don't have a problem with disagreement.
What I do find offensive is that rather than point out *how* you disgree with the opinion, you instead used a verbal shiv to discount *him* based on his openness about his/our past.
It stands to reason that we all offer our opinions which are going to be colored by our personality, our current life, our past.
Quote: . I agree that GEL is doing the right thing by being more affectionate with her H but I also believe that there is a definite limit to taking this approach with a man, even a very LD man.
I know that one of the assertions I have heard repeatedly by many of the men posting here is that they miss receiving affection from their wives. Reading sociological literature shows that affection is usually listed as one of the basic human needs. How that affection is expressed will have to be modulated to fit into each relationship.
Perhaps you perceive affection as something clingy and cuddly and it can often be expressed that way. But I think the base of affection is actually regard, attachment, and tenderness of heart toward another person. How that actually gets expressed can vary.
