I wouldn't insult you by assuming that you meant to set yourself up as a "paragon of virtue". I think you are as complicated and flawed as the rest of us, but also mucho tough and intelligent.
I don't disagree with NOP's moral stance, but I do disagree, once again, with his advice. I think the fact that he is so HD sort of gives him a blindspot which allows him to believe that HDW will find success by treating their LDH's like LDW. He can't imagine himself as a LDH so he assumes that LD is a more essential part of the LDH personality than the fact that they are men like him. I agree that GEL is doing the right thing by being more affectionate with her H but I also believe that there is a definite limit to taking this approach with a man, even a very LD man. Of course, I am not the most successful person on this BB at the moment so my advice/thoughts on the matter may be useless or counter-productive but still......
Somebody, anybody got my back here. HP?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
