I understand what you are saying, and I'm going to assume you didn't intend to sound preachy (sorry but you did)...I truly do respect your opinion. I have already given the "why's" long honest thought. I harbor no illusions as to why he pursued me...I'm fully aware it's not because of the wonderful woman that I am, I know his intentions were not honorable.
In that respect I'm no fool...I've always maintained that I wouldn't ever be able to be in a R anyway that began w/someone cheating (either one of us) on their spouse. I know myself well enough that I'd never be able to fully trust in that type of a R.
It's stuff like that along with the primary reason that I love my H which helped me to keep the temptation at bay as long as I did. I didn't do anything I would have been ashamed of....and did in fact make it quite clear to the man doing the pursuing when I was really afraid I might make a huge mistake, that I would not cheat on my H...I cut off all possible contact.
