Overview of my sitch: Married 5 yrs, tog 6, no kids, my first M, H's second, he has 2 grown kids from first M. Discovered a. on Oct. 16/04. Completly devasted,moved out for 1mth. BTW found out because ow made it her business to be sure i knew. It is very embarrassing and horrible way i found out. Suffice to say I was sure but had no actual proof. H. denied it and still denies it to this day. I left for 1mth but kept 'visiting'. He cried and begged. I moved back in on condition that we see a C. Still doing that. It was very rocky. Every time things started to go smoothly i would remember ow and get upset and start a fight. Things were really bad with M hanging by thread. We talked about splitting up. Found DB website end of Jan. started the techniques and things drastically improved with H telling me ILY and hugging, went out for Valentine's day. He called this morning at work to check if i was okay we are more open with each other.
But i am scared. He still denies a. what if she is still in picture? Think a went on for 1 1/2yrs! Plus i am drained by the dbing and feel despondent some days. Is it all a sham? Any advice out there?
